Monday, October 27, 2008

The Gift of Life

I quickly want to share my good news on this blog. With marriage, some couples choose to grow their family while others choose not to. Well, I just want to say that my wife and I will be growing our family by one. Sometime next summer, a new blessing will be added to the Wells' household.

I anticipate the next 7 or 8 months being another interesting journey. I know there is a lot to be learned during this process...as it was during the other pregnancy 4 years ago. I look forward to whatever comes...especially the daily husband to-do-list :(

That's all. Just wanted to share my news.

Take care and talk to you soon.

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Touch Me, Speak To Me....Only in Love

A week or so ago I received some very disturbing news. One of my former co-workers committed suicide. When I heard the news, my mind immediately raced to figure out why this beautiful young lady would take her life. My memories of her only include her smiles and that she was extremely active and spirited. I could not think of anything that would give her an inkling of taking her life. I was then told that her parents requested that no gifts or flowers be sent on her behalf, but they did have a request for donations. Her parents requested that donations be sent to a shelter for battered women. Yeah, I couldn't believe either. That was the last thing that would have cross my mind...and it still didn't.

Simply put, as a married couple, neither the husband nor wife should ever put his or her hands (or any object) on the other in anger. Why would you have to? We should all have enough self control to refrain from such behavior. We should have enough sense to walk away from the situation if needed. It's not about being "The Man" or being "Miss Independent Woman"...it's about being a man and woman of God.

Now you may be saying that women don't do anything to abuse men; and I guess that may be true most of the time with physical abuse. However, there are other types of abuse that women may be the culprit of...along with men. The Mouth/Tongue. The Bible says in James 3:5 "So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do". Verbal abuse can occur so often in a marriage until it becomes a normal habit within a marriage. Slowly, it can chip away at your marriage until you open your eyes one day and there is a huge open crater in your marriage.

In all that we do in our marriage, strive to be God-like as much as humanly possible. I know this is an impossible task, but if we continue to attempt this task, it will become habitual. Once that sets in, then it becomes a part of your everyday life to touch and speak to your spouse only in love. Any other way is not of God.

Let me know your thoughts.

Take care and be blessed.

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