In relationships, time can get away from us very quickly. As couples, we have to deal with work, children, their school and their activities. Additionally, we have to make time to keep the household running properly… chores need to be addressed and errands need to be tackled.
With having all of these responsibilities, sometimes it can seem nearly impossible for spouses to spend time with one another. When we age and turn gray, what memories will we have to share with our children and our grandchildren?
Lately, I see how time has been escaping me and my husband. I do remember there was a time in our marriage where we made time for each other. Now, it’s really about the jobs and the children. With us adding to the family this coming summer, I can only imagine that us spending time alone is a thing of the past. This just isn’t a good thing for married couples. I admit that I am guilty of not making time to do things with my husband; but a lot of the problem is having someone to keep the children. I am one of those mothers who prefer not leaving her children with other people. There are very few people that we trust with our children. The people who we trust have children of their own, so sometimes I feel like we can be imposing. I think it’s just something that I have to get over personally because our network of parents don’t mind having our kids over. I know I can’t continue to use this as an excuse as God has surrounded us with so much loving support.
Last night, after putting our youngest to bed, my husband and I watched an hour of television together. I cannot remember the last time we did that. It was actually really nice to sit there with him in the family room while watching something that I really had no interest in. It wasn’t the television show that I was enjoying; it was the company of my husband that I was taking advantage of.
With knowing how important marriage is, I want to do everything possible to ensure that my marriage stays solid. I want to be confident in knowing that husband is always going to be my husband and my best friend. With this acknowledgement, I am going to make a commitment to my husband. My commitment is to make the time needed for “US” to have those moments that are going to be cherished forever. This in turn will not only benefit my husband and me, it will also benefit our children. Our children will grow to understand how important relationships are and how important it is to spend time with the one you love.
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I can totally agree with every word you stated. My husband and I do not have kids together; but I have a 9 year old daughter that is lives with us 24/7 and he has a 5 year old daughter that comes every other weekend or during the holidays or as needed. I have found that between work, helping with homework, cleaning the house, cooking and etc. Couple time is narrowed down to almost nothing. Work and Kids are in demand in order to survive; but in order for your marriage to survive you have to STOP and say look we need to have some US time. I have a coworker that is in a relationship (not married) but every Friday no matter what they have date night. Whether it’s a movie at home are a few hours out on the town. The summer time is coming if you have a porch or patio in the back yard use some late nights to have a nice talk or smooth jazz playing low.
I must say that with the help of my sister and his family we don’t really have a big issue with people keeping our kids but I will say that you have to find that time to be together it is crucial and important.
Give it to God and let him intervene let him make a way in your lives that is helpful to you both and the kids. I know how it is leaving your kids with people. Before I got married I tried my best to keep my daughter in my back pocket. (Which didn’t work)
But anyway, God will make a way for you both to share time and thoughts together.
My new dilemma is getting some ME time but that is a whole other blog. (Smile)
Greetings Mrs. Wells, I read your comments and here are some helpful suggestions on your delimma concerning time. My Bishop/Pastor has always spoken to the young & older married couples about taking a day for themselves with each other once a week, and regardless of what your week has been, stick to your day. He says that couples should go out on a date to keep their romance alive & renewed. Now concerning your babysitting problem, what members in our congregation do, is hire one of the members children who are a responsible adult to watch their children at their home while they are out on their date. And when their is a group function for the married couples in our church, they ask for young adult volunteers to watch the group of children in our Annex Bldg until the group returns from their outting, so this should take away your worries about just letting anyone you don't know or might not feel comfortable with watching your children. So make sure it's Godfearing Believers that you know, fellowship with and you trust to watch your precious gifts from God. I hope this helps you, in Jesus name, amen.
God Bless
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