A week or so ago I received some very disturbing news. One of my former co-workers committed suicide. When I heard the news, my mind immediately raced to figure out why this beautiful young lady would take her life. My memories of her only include her smiles and that she was extremely active and spirited. I could not think of anything that would give her an inkling of taking her life. I was then told that her parents requested that no gifts or flowers be sent on her behalf, but they did have a request for donations. Her parents requested that donations be sent to a shelter for battered women. Yeah, I couldn't believe either. That was the last thing that would have cross my mind...and it still didn't.
Simply put, as a married couple, neither the husband nor wife should ever put his or her hands (or any object) on the other in anger. Why would you have to? We should all have enough self control to refrain from such behavior. We should have enough sense to walk away from the situation if needed. It's not about being "The Man" or being "Miss Independent Woman"...it's about being a man and woman of God.
Now you may be saying that women don't do anything to abuse men; and I guess that may be true most of the time with physical abuse. However, there are other types of abuse that women may be the culprit of...along with men. The Mouth/Tongue. The Bible says in James 3:5 "So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do". Verbal abuse can occur so often in a marriage until it becomes a normal habit within a marriage. Slowly, it can chip away at your marriage until you open your eyes one day and there is a huge open crater in your marriage.
In all that we do in our marriage, strive to be God-like as much as humanly possible. I know this is an impossible task, but if we continue to attempt this task, it will become habitual. Once that sets in, then it becomes a part of your everyday life to touch and speak to your spouse only in love. Any other way is not of God.
Let me know your thoughts.
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Ugh ugh ugh...that is sad to hear about you former co-worker. I sometimes wonder as a woman what actually gets you to the point to take your life or someone elses when your marriage or relationship is not so great.
Being a woman/man of God is so important an any relationship you deal with. Rather it is work, school, parenting or dealing with the daily cashier at your neighborhood store.
We must remember that being a person of God comes with us practicing his ways daily, reading of the bible daily to increase knowledge and daily prayer.
I prayer that her family is blessed with peace, understanding and comfort from the Lord our God.
Kristie, I pray the same for her family. Thanks for your comments
This is a topic near and dear to my heart. I've experienced both situations to a certain extent. I have been in an abusive marriage and I have also contemplated suicide. Many may wonder why would a woman stay; as others may wonder why have thoughts of suicide? Well, there are a few answers to the suicide question, but it starts with feelings of hopelessness. They are real! It can also be combined with a history of depression that is also chemically/physiologically real as well. In both cases, unfortunately, we (friends & family) don't support each other enough. HOWEVER, praise be to only God who is our Hope, Healer, and very present Help! Rest her sweet soul!
As for abuse, it is also a spirit of satan that has overcome the other person! As an educated female, in a good career, and in leadership roles, I feel sometimes, that these factors all by themselves can influence feelings of inadequacy in the other person. It should also be recognized that it isn't a female's aggressive personality that causes it. I feel that I am not aggressive. I am opinionated and I can take a stand when I need to, but forceful and pushy,I am not. But, it still happened to me.
What we have to remember is, although we are to love that sister or brother, that is their problem. Being a nurse and wanting to fix and help to heal people, I stayed. I refused to run from the devil, he was going to run from me! Now, you must also know that I was not in a very violent situation. Pushing and grabbing (really hard) was it, but that had to end. When volunteering with the domestic violence shelter locally, my marriage joined the statistics of those successfully continuing without physical abuse! It is possible! All things are possible in Christ, who strengthens us all!
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