In my last blog, I spoke about becoming a better spouse. One activity stated in the blog to do is "pray with your spouse". I want to touch on this activity for a few lines.
As we (wife, son, and myself) were driving back to Atlanta from an out of town trip, I had an opportunity to do some thinking and meditating (wife and son were sleep) on everything that we have going through in our current lives. As I pondered an important decision that would have to be made within the next few days, I realized that prayer would be needed to help us make it through this decision process. While I consistently pray for guidance and direction from God, I realized that this was something that my wife and I needed to pray about together. At this point, something hit me in regards to my individual prayers and my wife's individual prayers on the situation ...are we in agreement on what we want the outcome of our situation to be? As I thought about this, my spiritual eyes and mind began to open and I realized that my wife and I need to be in agreement with all of our prayers, both individually and collectively.
The biblical verse Matthew 18:19 speaks directly on this principle. It states...If two of you agree down here on earth concerning anything you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you. I realized that I needed to talk to my wife about this situation and find out exactly what she expects to happen at the end of the day, and I needed to tell her what I expect to happen when all is said and done. After that, we would need to agree on an outcome that we wanted and expected. Once we agreed, we could then go to God together in agreement and ask for His wisdom, guidance, and favor on our situation.
When my wife woke up, I proceeded to ask her questions on what she thought about things and what she wanted and expected from the situation at hand. I then gave my thoughts and we then agreed on what we wanted out of the situation. Later that night, it was extremely easy and comforting to hold my wife's hands and go to God in prayer expressing to Him our concerns and needs. This is something we rarely do, especially to this extent...being in full agreement and praying together. It was a true lesson learned on praying with my wife...which is to make sure I have completed the prerequisite of being in agreement with my spouse.
I strongly suggest that if you and your spouse are going through any hardships, whether it be relational, spiritual, physical, or financial; take the time to come in agreement with each other on the outcome that you want and expect. Once in agreement, pray to God about it and then let Him do His work.
As always, let me know your thoughts.
Be blessed and talk to you soon.
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Well that makes a lot of sense. I never thought about it that way. I guess if my husband and I had different ideas about a situation or wanted a different outcome how could we come together and pray and be intimate with God if we have two different thoughts.
I will have to remember this point next time something comes up. Because a lot of times as a wife I get caught up in that "I know what the family needs syndrome". So a lot of my prayers about a situation or from an individual stand point.
It makes sense to come to an agreement then go to God.
Interesting...
Hey Kristie. I know there are many cases where spouses will be on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to what should be done about a particular situation. Individual prayer is a must, but I would hope that the individual prayer would eventually lead to some type of mutual agreement between the husband and wife (if they come together and discuss), and then both can go to God in prayer as a unit. It may take some time to get to this point...heck, it may take a lifetime :) I guess it truly depends on the situation you are dealing with at that time and the patient level of each person.
Thanks for the comment.
You are right. In a marriage some things may be successful right off and others things may take some time.
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