I guess I better
explain what “par” is first before I proceed … just in case you don’t know golf
terminology. Par is considered to be the
number of strokes a golfer is expected to need to complete an individual
hole/all holes on the golf course. I
guess with the mentioning of “strokes” and “holes”, I should also let you know
that this is not about sex.
What this is
about is scoring a good game in your relationship. Think of each game as a facet of your
relationship. This could range from
communicating with your spouse, to helping out around the house, to showing
appreciation to your spouse, and to showing/giving your spouse some extra lovin. With each one of these games, it should be
your goal to shoot “par” or better … meaning you are winning your spouse over
in all facets of your relationship.
Now as far as my
relationship is concerned, I think I am shooting “par” overall (still married).
The good thing about shooting “par” for the game is that you can have a few bad
holes, but then come back with some good holes to reach an overall “par” game
or better. My wife lets me know in a
heartbeat when I am shooting a “bogey” (1 over par … not good) or even a
“double bogey”.
What are you
shooting in your relationship? Are you
shooting all “bogeys” (not good), all “birdies” (very good), or a mixture of
both that evens out to “par”?
Many
relationships probably experience the mixture.
The key here is to make sure you are excelling more than you are
failing. I think your spouse will forget
about those few “bogeys” if you are consistently scoring “pars” or “birdies” in
the relationship.
Whatever your
current situation is within your relationship, good or bad, you need to strive towards
shooting “par”. If you’re not shooting
“par”, change up your swing and swing a different way. In other words, mix up your routine within
your relationship to see if you can change what hasn’t been working in the
past. Overall, you want to get the ball
in the hole in the minimum amount of strokes.
And YES, this is
applicable to both men and women!
Love hard and
love true.
Let us know your
thoughts.
